Postive Self-Image: A Tool in Recovery

Positive Self-Image: A Tool in Recovery

One thing that has helped me through my recovery process is a positive self-image. Although, this positive self-image I have is not inherent- instead it is something I work to maintain. At times my self image has been poor. At these times my symptoms of schizophrenia were also less manageable, and my decision making was less rational. A positive self-image is not by itself a cure all for mental illness. It should be a part of someone’s wellness plan if they have a mental illness.

A wellness plan could include maintaining or losing weight, keeping relationships with current friends, making new friends, taking part in fun activities, or finding and maintaining employment. Some of what you see on a person's wellness plan should be  for improving or maintaining a positive self-image. As your self-image improves it feeds your belief that you can improve and meet personal goals. A positive self-image is a source of hope. Hope is thought by many to be the most important component in the recovery process.

There are a few things that are sources of a positive self-image for me. I must be active both physically and socially. I believe exercise to be a two fold approach to having a positive self-image. It increases your energy and improves how you look. Interacting and forming relationships with your peers is also beneficial. I always like a good game of chess with a friend.

Unfortunately, there are also things that detract from a positive self-image. A big one of these is dependence on others- specifically, being financially dependent as an adult has been horrible for my own self-image. Other detractors are a lack of romance, lack of direction, and being sedentary.

Maintaining a positive self-image comes in part from positive thinking. To develop positivity you must attempt to be realistic, accepting your flaws and limitations. You must also recognize your strengths and accomplishments. Positive thinking may take time and practice. There are a number of tools to help you out, and I have listed many of these tools below.

Avoid exaggerations: Keep your internal voice from making irrational assumptions- specifically negative assumptions such as "I will never be able to do that," or "I will always have this problem."

Nip negative thoughts in the bud: Do not bash yourself. You must accept who you are.

Accentuate the positive: In the face of upsetting circumstances, remind your self of your accomplishments and qualities.

Accept flaws and being human: Everyone makes mistakes. You are not perfect and that’s ok.

Replace criticism with encouragement: Give constructive criticism to yourself and others. Your positive self-image does not entirely come from within. You need positive external influences too.

Don’t feel guilty about things beyond your control: You are not always to blame when something goes wrong. If you are in the wrong, learn and move on. If not, do not beat yourself up over it.

Do feel responsible for your feelings: Don’t expect others to make you feel happy or good about yourself. People and events have an affect on your emotions, but they don’t dictate them.

Treat yourself kindly: Do not describe yourself in terms you wouldn’t openly describe someone else. You deserve to be treated as well as you treat others. Treat your self once in a while possibly to a dinner or a walk in the park.

Forgive and forget: Try not to hang on to painful memories and bad feelings. It’s important to work through things but don’t let the past determine your future.

Focus on what you can do, not what you can’t: Avoid "can’t" thinking or other negative thoughts. Don’t be afraid to seek help in accomplishing things. Remind yourself of your capabilities and positive qualities.

Try one or two of these strategies on a regular basis. Making internal changes will increase your ability to make external changes that will change your life.